Well, after years and
years of assuming, learning, observing and concluding that I hate gossip;
gossip is bad (at least for someone's reputation); that our problems and woes
are ours alone; that my life is just my business and I do not want to talk to a
third person about it...well, after all of that, I am now learning (afresh!)
that gossip might actually be good for me! And for you, and for just about
anyone!
It
appears that the bottled up emotions; good, bad, neutral; fear, elation, love,
hatred, and the whole lot; they are not good for us. We need to release them.
And by releasing them, I do not mean go on the web and its multitude of social
networks and start talking just about anyone. I only mean to say that we all
need to have at least one good friend with whom you can share all of your
happiness and miseries. Now that friend could be your spouse, your brother,
your sister, your parent, your partner, your co-worker, your classmate, even
your mom-in law- just as long as you do not spread malicious rumour about
anyone , I think you will reap the benefits of talking. Apparently, talking
relieves the stress of not talking (i.e. same as keeping quiet = keeping it all
bottled up inside you= danger of that volcano erupting one day= chemical
imbalance in the brain/ emotional breakdown/ depression). I am no doctor- but I
am just sharing with you the advice I have recently received myself, from a
most trusted professional.
So,
lighten up. Share your pain, your story about the people in your life (boss/
colleague/ roommate/ partner/a friend turned foe/ neighbour/ the stinky lab
partner/ in-laws -yes, believe it or not- they are universally prone to be gossiped
about the most!- et al), the sickness that you are going through, the happiness
you experience, the little joys and the little sorrows (the maid being late for
work again, e.g.!) ....it might just do you good!! Just give it an outlet, and the other person's insight might come as a bonus along with it.
Finding someone you can trust more than enough; someone with enough patience and time to listen to your babbling.....that is the most difficult part, the only one problem in the whole deal. May be I need different people for different kinds of gossiping! (and spare that one person i was thinking about earlier!!)
P.S.:
Take this advice at your own risk. Discretion is highly advised. Again!